and therefore so much less secure; the m and is tempted to take advantage of it mo ture to do with his equal.

This rule applies with much greater for is sufficiently liberal to award proper mot is seen upon terms of intimacy with a ma Unmarried persons have no occasion to intercourse. They should preserve the m their communication.

Under these restraints, all necessary fac the proper objects of company and conve a preliminary ascertainment of personal private view to marriage.

Information as to character, family, &c from other sources.

All intimacies that pass this line of circ courtship, are unfavorably looked at by reputation of the parties, excite false and pectations, and keep the parties out of th of anti-nuptial correspondence with others

Married persons, when apart, and with sex, cannot be too guarded in their deport departure from strict formality gives ro jealousy.

Respectable persons only are here refer follow their depraved propensities.

By the term respectable are meant hon rity, and all the domestic virtues, witho poverty, occupation, or the refinements of able society.

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There is nothing improper or censurable conventional considerations in marriage, ho are, for the future happiness of the parties

The refined and educated may, perhaps up the one behind; and love and sincere times overlook the difference.

The stock of complacency must be ver

spectability alone, the chances for accommodation are son reasonable, but it is a risk which no discreet man or will venture upon.

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The contingencies of a long and precarious life are too ing, fluctuating, and dangerous for this experiment. All should be equal and fitting; age, constitution, health, education, habits, taste, and prejudices, to secure harmony with all these, the charm often fails from natural and disaffinities; after excitement is over, affection is was the climacteric, mental and physical changes, of time a

come.

There is a delusion prevalent with men, that wom low them the daughters of mean, low-bred men, to and stupid to better their condition, and too depraved prove their minds and educate their children; that a gi and brought up in filth, menial employments, and loose ny, because she appears to be modest, artless, and in and is handsome and compliant, will be more likely to good wife, and to be reasonable in her aspirations for company, and show, and more tight and thrifty with he and family, than the well-bred and carefully educated da of intelligent and enterprising men, who, perhaps, by and prudent industry, have lifted themselves and their c from a humble condition up into the spheres of respec and honorable distinction.

The men who take the risk of this precarious and experiment have no right to murmur if they are disapp It will be a mad and desperate defiance of the rules by the impulses of discretion are respected in all other hun dertakings.

BEFORE MARRIAGE.

Marriage-Should be early and suitable, and appr all old acquaintances and habits, for mutual Equality-Open-Frank-No scolding-No co If the object is sensual, no disguise-Whytended-Should inquire carefully of the deli age If rich, poor, inferior, deformed, or d should not marry-Conspiracy for marriageCrawler-If both poor, or both rich-Or eq -And herein, of poverty with one, and wealth Secret humiliation-Excitement for marriage the proper pre-requisites are found out-Affini voluntary blindness while the passions lastrespectable persons for fraudulent marriagesof inconsistent principles cannot agree-Judg losophy of marriage.

No man should entertain or encourage vagant as to defer marriage until he is wife, according to some fancied notions present sphere and means.

Let him hunt out a woman who is his propriate moral and social elements; who begin the world with him upon a scale which he has the ability to support; wheth the limited accommodations of an unserve tage, or a full-furnished dwelling.

Let him prepare his mind to abandon associations and indulgences; faithfully a sue his business; maintain honest particip in all his amusements and gratifications dence; respect her opinions; persuade h faults; and praise her motives and efforts;and conversation, give her to feel that she Revere and tenderly minister to all her

Let him freely and solemnly conform to these honorab conservative resolutions.

Let the woman be prepared to reciprocate with the m these rational preparations for marriage; make herself ample of every female virtue; be cheerful, neat, modest, industrious, saving, and thoroughly accomplished in a constitutes, not a street stroller, a saloon promenader, a bal flirt, or a parlor belle-but in every perfect and winning fication for an affectionate and faithful wife and mother.

And then, let the man and woman have with each fair, free, full, and unreserved understanding;-waste no but get married;—the woman at eighteen or nineteen, a man at twenty-one or twenty-two. Begin life at the righ and the right age; and in the natural, proper, and hon way; take position as a respectable member of the c nity; and fill the distinguished destiny God has offered t like a man of true pride.

Marriage should not be hastily contracted. The should be certain that both are in earnest, and that the answer, and will honestly come up to, the foregoing r

ments.

Of this they should be certain; and that there is no design, or pursuit for property, or supposed family adva desire for sensual indulgences, or sinister objects; and they should surrender their entire hearts to each other. The whole feeling with both should be unaffected, tru cere, genuine, and reciprocal.

Marriage.- -"To honor marriage more yet, or rather t the married how to honor one another, it is said that th was made of the husband's rib; not of his head, for Paul the husband the wife's head; not of his foot, for he mu set her at his foot; the servant is appointed to serve, a wife to help. If she must not match with the head, no at the foot, where shall he set her then? He must set his heart; and therefore she which should lie in his boso made in his bosom, and should be as close to him as h of which she was fashioned."-HENRY SMITH'S Serm

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present this evenness: for if it be straiter will pinch; and if it be wider than the fi but if it be fit, it neither pincheth no p. 19.

A marginal note says, "The ceremony the invention declared.'

"Let no one doubt that it would be wel women if each sex really knew more of were less in the habit of wearing a smiling course with men, and men showed more of selves in the society of women. As it is, pocrisy of sex on both sides, which is usu the family. It is curious to mark how f what little things it shows itself. You shal with men; mark how natural his tones ar ⚫tude and gestures, if he indulge in any. B go up to a woman and talk with her: in n you see a sudden and total change of bea His voice has a sort of affectation in it; h a sort of ungraceful movement, or is stiffer strained repose. It is clear that he is ac similar change is observable in the woman one manner for her own sex, and another f conversing with a man, she is much more vivacious, and often thinks it necessary to things in which she feels no real concern. the man, as the man is playing to her. Th other the varnished side of their respective

"Now in all social intercourse there is mo of admitted and conscious deception, but it rate, goes further, and is used more as a bl of the opposite sexes; and it has more seri as between men and women than as betwe woman and woman. It is never so much people are falling in love with each other, an love-making, and the earlier stages of mar